Couples Counseling
Have you ever heard that most problems with couples deal with kids, finances, or sex? Though this may be true, it might actually sound more like this:
"We dig into the past in every argument."
"I know what needs to change, but I don't know how to do it."
"We need to decide if we are going to make this work or separate/divorce."
"We keep doing the same things over and over again. Nothing is working."
"I cannot trust him/her."
"We have sex, but there is no intimacy”
Most people think that if they just ignore or avoid the issue, in time it will go away. Others feel that one day they will wake up and, like “magic”, their partner will start/stop doing whatever is bothering them….it’ll be like that fairytale relationship you always dreamed of…. But six months later you are still feeling the same hurt, frustration, or resentment.
Does that sound like you?
Another scenario we see all the time in our clinic is when people have had a bad experience with therapy in the past. Perhaps they didn’t feel that the therapist was really hearing them, or that they always just brought up “the fight of the week” and re-hashed it over again….leading to even more confusion, frustration, or anger.
Has that ever happened to you?
Maybe you are confused because you’ve been given “relationship advice” by different people, that frankly has just not worked. Perhaps you have read a million blog posts, dozens of self-help books, listened to all the podcasts...yet here you are with little progress. Managing human relationships (especially our closest ones) can be a very confusing venture, and this often leads people to procrastinate and put off making a decision about what to do to help fix their relationships. Worse, many people just end up accepting it as ‘part of life’ - as if it’s normal to be in an unhappy relationship and as if it “has” to be that way.
Is this how you feel?
If you’re currently living in a relationship feeling little hope, frustrated with crappy communication, and lacking passion, here are 7 more reasons why it isn’t getting any better
You thought it would go away on it’s own - but it didn’t
You tried one or two things to “spice” things up - but after a week or two you were back to the same routine
A family member, or friend, told you that everybody goes through a rough patch, so you just accepted it
You sought help from other healthcare professionals or a therapist in the past, but nothing they said or did seemed to help
You’ve tried using things like self-help books or YouTube advice, but are still feeling frustrated or hurt
You thought that if you just distanced yourself emotionally the hurt would go away, but it hasn’t, and perhaps is even worse now
You decided to do something big like ‘make a major purchase’, ‘go on that dream vacation’, ‘have a child’, etc. hoping that would fix the pain, and all it did was feel nice and instantly gratifying, but didn’t do anything to fix it long term…
If any of these have happened to you - we would love to help you by inviting you to book a call to talk with one of our counselors to find out what we can do to help you. The fact that you’ve tried any or all of these things, means that we know what doesn’t work - which means we are closer to finding what DOES. Click the link below to book a call with us if you would like to get some solid advice:
The next thing people ask us all the time is this:
“What Can I Do To Improve Our Relationship?”
Well, here's 4 things you can do:
1. First off, you need to make a decision about getting help. So many people procrastinate for so long, thinking that the frustration will ‘just go away with time’, but then 6 months down the line they’re still putting up with it, and nothing’s changed… Or it gets worse.
2. Next, peg down what exactly gets you and your partner into your negative cycle - One of the best things to help ease your relationship woes is to understand why certain actions (or inactions) cause you to get those negative feelings - the right “exercises” given to you by a therapist will help work through those cycles, and allow you to have peace and enjoyment quick - and make sure that the problems don’t come back any time soon.
3. Find ways to take care of yourself - Does the strain of your relationship ever cause you to feel exhausted? Or have you experienced increased anxiety, depression, or even just a lack of joy? That’s because all of these negative things go hand in hand and can feed off of each other. It would really help if you had a little bit more “in your tank.” Things like yoga/exercise, mindfulness, a hobby or recreation, or even something as simple as taking a few minutes to just be in a quiet place and focus on breathing can make huge impacts on your own psyche.
4. Get real, “hands-on” counseling - Counseling is proven to help people with relationship troubles. In fact, at Cache Valley Counseling it’s one of the most common issues we see. If your relationship is affecting your children or other loved ones, affecting your job, or is making it hard to have hope and joy in life, counseling can help get you back to living the life you deserve as quickly as possible.
If you would like to know how the therapy team at Cache Valley Counseling can help you improve your relationship - we invite you to start with a completely free, no-obligation, risk free appointment at our clinic in Providence or online:
How can choosing to see a Therapist at Cache Valley Counseling, help you get the love and trust back?
-We can quickly discover the ‘why’ your relationship has gotten to where it is - often within a couple of sessions
-We can help you find out what’s really going on, and get to the root cause of your negative cycle once and for all
-Relationship stress can “zap” you of energy and even limit a peaceful nights sleep - we can help you live with more energy each day
-We will ensure that your cycle is “corrected” and “healed” properly, and we will provide you with the perfect strategies for both you and your partner
-We can help you get back to enjoying quality time with family and friends…
Basically… the therapy team at Cache Valley Counseling can help you get back to living life free from the frustration, hurt, and confusion that you are currently experiencing.
If you want to know what it costs and what availability we have at our clinic in Providence or online, then please just click the button below and complete the short form:
